Years ago some scientists did a simple experiment on a bullfrog. They threw a bullfrog into a container of boiling water, and the bullfrog instantly popped out of the boiling water. Next they put the bullfrog into a container of cold water. The bullfrog liked it and stayed in the container. The scientist then turned on the heat at the bottom of the container. As the water got warmer, the bullfrog relaxed and took a nap. The bullfrog was so comfortable that it stayed in the container and was “cooked”.
SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
Many of us are in the “comfort zone”. We have a house to go home to, a nice bed to sleep on, food in the fridge, a group of friends to mingle with, along with some basic necessities of life. We have worked hard to get to where we are now. So why should we change this? The truth is most of us are like the bullfrog, because we feel warm and comfortable, we refuse to get out of our comfort zone, and prefer to stay where we are. In life we are either creating or disintegrating. There is no such thing as “staying where we are”, because there is always movement. So if we are not moving ahead in life, we must by nature, be moving in the opposite direction.
Belajar dari Kungfu Panda
Po , si Panda jantan, yang sehari-hari bekerja di toko mie ayahnya, memiliki impian untuk menjadi seorang pendekar
Kung Fu. Tak disangka, dalam pemilihan Pendekar Naga, Po dinobatkan sebagai Pendekar Naga yang dinanti-nantikan kehadirannya untuk melindungi desa dari balas dendam Tai Lung.
Saat menonton film animasi ini, kita seperti diingatkan tentang beberapa hal:
1. The secret to be special is you have to believe you're special.
Po hampir putus asa karena tidak mampu memecahkan rahasia Kitab Naga, yang hanya berupa lembaran kosong. Wejangan dari ayahnya-lah yang akhirnya membuatnya kembali bersemangat dan memandang positif dirinya sendiri. Kalau kita berpikir diri kita adalah spesial, unik, berharga kita pun akan punya daya dorong untuk melakukan hal-hal yang spesial.
Kita akan bisa, kalau kita berpikir kita bisa.
Seperti kata Master Oogway, You just need to believe
2. Teruslah kejar impianmu.
Po , panda gemuk yang untuk bergerak saja susah akhirnya bisa menguasai ilmu Kung Fu. Berapa banyak dari kita yang akhirnya menyerah, gagal mencapai impian karena terhalang oleh pikiran negatif diri kita sendiri? Seperti kata Master Oogway, kemarin adalah sejarah, esok adalah misteri, saat ini adalah anugerah, makanya disebut Present hadiah. Jangan biarkan diri kita dihalangi oleh kegagalan masa lalu dan ketakutan masa depan. Ayo berjuanglah di masa sekarang yang telah dianugerahkan Tuhan padamu.
3. Kamu tidak akan bisa mengembangkan orang lain, sebelum kamu percaya dengan kemampuan orang itu, dan kemampuan dirimu sendiri.
Master ShiFu ogah-ogahan melatih Po. Ia memandang Po tidak berbakat. Kalaupun Po bisa, mana mungkin ia melatih Po dalam waktu sekejap. Kondisi ini berbalik seratus delapan puluh derajat, setelah ShiFu diyakinkan Master Oogway -gurunya- bahwa Po sungguh-sungguh adalah Pendekar Naga dan Shi Fu satu-satunya orang yang mampu melatihnya.
Sebagai guru atau orang tua, hal yang paling harus dihindari adalah memberi label bahwa anak ini tidak punya peluang untuk berubah. Sangatlah mudah bagi kita untuk menganggap orang lain tidak punya masa depan. Kesulitan juga acap kali membuat kita kehilangan percaya diri, bahwa kita masih mampu untuk membimbing mereka.
4.Tiap individu belajar dengan cara dan motivasinya sendiri.
Shi Fu akhirnya menemukan bahwa Po baru termotivasi dan bisa mengeluarkan semua kemampuannya, bila terkait dengan makanan. Po tidak bisa menjalani latihan seperti 5 murid jagoannya yang lain.
Demikian juga dengan setiap anak. Kita ingat ada 3 gaya belajar yang kombinasi ketiganya membuat setiap orang punya gaya belajar yang unik. Hal yang menjadi motivasi tiap orang juga berbeda-beda. Ketika kita memaksakan keseragaman proses belajar, dipastikan akan ada anak-anak yang dirugikan.
5. Kebanggaan berlebihan atas anak/murid/diri sendiri bisa membutakan mata kita tentang kondisi sebenarnya, bahkan bisa membawa mereka ke arah yang salah.
Master ShiFu sangat menyayangi Tai Lung, seekor macan tutul, murid pertamanya, yang ia asuh sejak bayi. Ia membentuk Tai Lung sedemikian rupa agar sesuai dengan harapannya. Memberikan impian bahwa Tai Lung
akan menjadi Pendekar Naga yang mewarisi ilmu tertinggi. Sayangnya Shi Fu tidak melihat sisi jahat dari Tai Lung dan harus membayar mahal, bahkan nyaris kehilangan nyawanya.
Seringkali kita memiliki image yang keliru tentang diri sendiri/anak/murid kita. Parahnya, ada pula yang dengan sengaja mempertebal tembok kebohongan ini dengan hanya mau mendengar informasi dan konfirmasi dari orang-orang tertentu. Baru-baru ini saya bertemu seorang ibu yang selama 14 tahun masih sibuk membohongi diri bahwa anaknya tidak autis. Ia lebih senang berkonsultasi dengan orang yang tidak ahli di bidang autistik. Mendeskreditkan pandangan ahli-ahli di bidang autistik. Dengan sengaja memilih terapis yang tidak kompeten, agar bisa disetir sesuai keinginannya. Akibatnya proses terapi 11 tahun tidak membuahkan hasil yang signifikan. Ketika kita punya image yang keliru, kita akan melangkah ke arah yang keliru.
6. Hidup memang penuh kepahitan, tapi jangan biarkan kepahitan tinggal dalam hatimu.
Setelah dikhianati oleh Tai Lung, Shi Fu tidak pernah lagi menunjukkan kebanggaan dan kasih sayang pada murid-muridnya. Sisi terburuk dari kepahitan adalah kita tidak bisa merasakan kasih sayang dan tidak bisa berbagi kasih sayang.
7. Keluarga sangatlah penting.
Di saat merasa terpuruk, Po disambut hangat oleh sang ayah. Berkat ayahnya pula Po dapat memecahkan rahasia Kitab Naga dan menjadi Pendekar nomor satu. Sudahkah kita memberi dukungan pada anggota keluarga kita?
Kung Fu. Tak disangka, dalam pemilihan Pendekar Naga, Po dinobatkan sebagai Pendekar Naga yang dinanti-nantikan kehadirannya untuk melindungi desa dari balas dendam Tai Lung.
Saat menonton film animasi ini, kita seperti diingatkan tentang beberapa hal:
1. The secret to be special is you have to believe you're special.
Po hampir putus asa karena tidak mampu memecahkan rahasia Kitab Naga, yang hanya berupa lembaran kosong. Wejangan dari ayahnya-lah yang akhirnya membuatnya kembali bersemangat dan memandang positif dirinya sendiri. Kalau kita berpikir diri kita adalah spesial, unik, berharga kita pun akan punya daya dorong untuk melakukan hal-hal yang spesial.
Kita akan bisa, kalau kita berpikir kita bisa.
Seperti kata Master Oogway, You just need to believe
2. Teruslah kejar impianmu.
Po , panda gemuk yang untuk bergerak saja susah akhirnya bisa menguasai ilmu Kung Fu. Berapa banyak dari kita yang akhirnya menyerah, gagal mencapai impian karena terhalang oleh pikiran negatif diri kita sendiri? Seperti kata Master Oogway, kemarin adalah sejarah, esok adalah misteri, saat ini adalah anugerah, makanya disebut Present hadiah. Jangan biarkan diri kita dihalangi oleh kegagalan masa lalu dan ketakutan masa depan. Ayo berjuanglah di masa sekarang yang telah dianugerahkan Tuhan padamu.
3. Kamu tidak akan bisa mengembangkan orang lain, sebelum kamu percaya dengan kemampuan orang itu, dan kemampuan dirimu sendiri.
Master ShiFu ogah-ogahan melatih Po. Ia memandang Po tidak berbakat. Kalaupun Po bisa, mana mungkin ia melatih Po dalam waktu sekejap. Kondisi ini berbalik seratus delapan puluh derajat, setelah ShiFu diyakinkan Master Oogway -gurunya- bahwa Po sungguh-sungguh adalah Pendekar Naga dan Shi Fu satu-satunya orang yang mampu melatihnya.
Sebagai guru atau orang tua, hal yang paling harus dihindari adalah memberi label bahwa anak ini tidak punya peluang untuk berubah. Sangatlah mudah bagi kita untuk menganggap orang lain tidak punya masa depan. Kesulitan juga acap kali membuat kita kehilangan percaya diri, bahwa kita masih mampu untuk membimbing mereka.
4.Tiap individu belajar dengan cara dan motivasinya sendiri.
Shi Fu akhirnya menemukan bahwa Po baru termotivasi dan bisa mengeluarkan semua kemampuannya, bila terkait dengan makanan. Po tidak bisa menjalani latihan seperti 5 murid jagoannya yang lain.
Demikian juga dengan setiap anak. Kita ingat ada 3 gaya belajar yang kombinasi ketiganya membuat setiap orang punya gaya belajar yang unik. Hal yang menjadi motivasi tiap orang juga berbeda-beda. Ketika kita memaksakan keseragaman proses belajar, dipastikan akan ada anak-anak yang dirugikan.
5. Kebanggaan berlebihan atas anak/murid/diri sendiri bisa membutakan mata kita tentang kondisi sebenarnya, bahkan bisa membawa mereka ke arah yang salah.
Master ShiFu sangat menyayangi Tai Lung, seekor macan tutul, murid pertamanya, yang ia asuh sejak bayi. Ia membentuk Tai Lung sedemikian rupa agar sesuai dengan harapannya. Memberikan impian bahwa Tai Lung
akan menjadi Pendekar Naga yang mewarisi ilmu tertinggi. Sayangnya Shi Fu tidak melihat sisi jahat dari Tai Lung dan harus membayar mahal, bahkan nyaris kehilangan nyawanya.
Seringkali kita memiliki image yang keliru tentang diri sendiri/anak/murid kita. Parahnya, ada pula yang dengan sengaja mempertebal tembok kebohongan ini dengan hanya mau mendengar informasi dan konfirmasi dari orang-orang tertentu. Baru-baru ini saya bertemu seorang ibu yang selama 14 tahun masih sibuk membohongi diri bahwa anaknya tidak autis. Ia lebih senang berkonsultasi dengan orang yang tidak ahli di bidang autistik. Mendeskreditkan pandangan ahli-ahli di bidang autistik. Dengan sengaja memilih terapis yang tidak kompeten, agar bisa disetir sesuai keinginannya. Akibatnya proses terapi 11 tahun tidak membuahkan hasil yang signifikan. Ketika kita punya image yang keliru, kita akan melangkah ke arah yang keliru.
6. Hidup memang penuh kepahitan, tapi jangan biarkan kepahitan tinggal dalam hatimu.
Setelah dikhianati oleh Tai Lung, Shi Fu tidak pernah lagi menunjukkan kebanggaan dan kasih sayang pada murid-muridnya. Sisi terburuk dari kepahitan adalah kita tidak bisa merasakan kasih sayang dan tidak bisa berbagi kasih sayang.
7. Keluarga sangatlah penting.
Di saat merasa terpuruk, Po disambut hangat oleh sang ayah. Berkat ayahnya pula Po dapat memecahkan rahasia Kitab Naga dan menjadi Pendekar nomor satu. Sudahkah kita memberi dukungan pada anggota keluarga kita?
# 2 : He Played His Best
This is the story of Robby. He was a young boy who lived with his elderly mother. His mother wanted him to learn how to play the piano because she longed to hear her son play for her. She sent her son to a piano teacher who took Robby in under her guidance.
However, there was one small problem because Robby was not musically inclined and therefore was very slow in learning. The teacher did not have much faith in the boy because of his weakness. The mother was very enthusiastic and every week she would send Robby to the teacher. One day Robby stopped attending the piano lessons. The teacher thought that he had given up and in fact she was quite pleased since she did not give much hope to Robby.
Not long after, the piano teacher was given task to organize a piano concert in town. He sent out circulars to invite the students and public to attend the event. Suddenly, she received a call from Robby who offered to take part in the concert. The teacher told Robby that he was not good enough and that he was no longer a student since he had stopped coming for lessons.
Robby begged her to give him a chance and promised that he will not let her down. Finally, she gave in and she put him to play last, hoping that he will change his mind at the last minute.
When the big day came, the hall was packed and the children gave their best performance. Finally, it was Robby’s turn to play and his name was announced, he walked in. He was not in proper attire and his hair was not properly groomed. The teacher was really nervous since Robby’s performance could spoil the whole evening’s brilliant performance.
As Robby started playing the crowd became silent and was amazed at the skill of this little boy. In fact, he gave the best performance of that evening. At the end of his presentation the crowd and the piano teacher gave him a standing ovation.
The crowd asked Robby how he managed to play so brilliantly. With a microphone in front of him, he said, “I was not able to attend the weekly piano lessons as there was no one to send me because my mother was sick with cancer. She just passed away this morning and I wanted her to hear me play. You see, this is the first time she is able to hear me play because when she was alive she was deaf and now she is listening to me. I have to play my best for her !”.
SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
This is indeed a touching story about love and excellence. When you have a passion and a reason to do something, you will surely excel. You may not be talented or gifted, but if you have a strong enough reason to do something, you will be able to tap into your inner God given potential.
However, there was one small problem because Robby was not musically inclined and therefore was very slow in learning. The teacher did not have much faith in the boy because of his weakness. The mother was very enthusiastic and every week she would send Robby to the teacher. One day Robby stopped attending the piano lessons. The teacher thought that he had given up and in fact she was quite pleased since she did not give much hope to Robby.
Not long after, the piano teacher was given task to organize a piano concert in town. He sent out circulars to invite the students and public to attend the event. Suddenly, she received a call from Robby who offered to take part in the concert. The teacher told Robby that he was not good enough and that he was no longer a student since he had stopped coming for lessons.
Robby begged her to give him a chance and promised that he will not let her down. Finally, she gave in and she put him to play last, hoping that he will change his mind at the last minute.
When the big day came, the hall was packed and the children gave their best performance. Finally, it was Robby’s turn to play and his name was announced, he walked in. He was not in proper attire and his hair was not properly groomed. The teacher was really nervous since Robby’s performance could spoil the whole evening’s brilliant performance.
As Robby started playing the crowd became silent and was amazed at the skill of this little boy. In fact, he gave the best performance of that evening. At the end of his presentation the crowd and the piano teacher gave him a standing ovation.
The crowd asked Robby how he managed to play so brilliantly. With a microphone in front of him, he said, “I was not able to attend the weekly piano lessons as there was no one to send me because my mother was sick with cancer. She just passed away this morning and I wanted her to hear me play. You see, this is the first time she is able to hear me play because when she was alive she was deaf and now she is listening to me. I have to play my best for her !”.
SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
This is indeed a touching story about love and excellence. When you have a passion and a reason to do something, you will surely excel. You may not be talented or gifted, but if you have a strong enough reason to do something, you will be able to tap into your inner God given potential.
Who Moved My Cheese?
An Amazing Way to Deal With Change In Your Work & In Your Life
DR SPENCER JOHNSON
DR SPENCER JOHNSON
- “Cheese” – a metaphor for what we want to have in life, whether it is a job, a relationship, money, a big house, freedom, health, recognition, spiritual peace, or even an activity like jogging or golf.
Each of us has our own idea of what Cheese is, and we pursue it because we believe it makes us happy. If we get it, we often become attached to it. And if we lose it, or it’s taken away, it can be traumatic.
ONCE, long ago, there lived 4 little characters who ran through a maze looking for cheese to nourish them & make them happy.
Two were mice named “Sniff” & “Scurry” and two were little people named “Hem” & “Haw”.
Every morning, the mice & the little people dressed in their running gear & headed over to Cheese Station C where they found their own kind of cheese. It was a large store of Cheese that Hem & Haw eventually moved their homes to be closer to it & built a social life around it.
To make themselves feel more at home, Hem & Haw decorated the walls with sayings. One read:
"Having Cheese Makes you Happy".
One morning, Sniff & Scurry arrived at Cheese Station C & discovered there was no cheese.
They weren’t surprised. Since they had noticed the supply of cheese had been getting smaller every day, they were prepared for the inevitable & knew instinctively what to do. They were quickly off in search of New Cheese.
Later that same day, Hem & Haw arrived. “What! No Cheese? Who moved my Cheese? It’s not fair!”, Hem yelled. They went home that night hungry & discouraged. But before they left, Haw wrote on the wall:
The More Important Your Cheese is To You,
The More You Want To Hold Onto It.
The next day Hem & Haw left their homes, & returned to Cheese Station C. But situation hadn’t changed. Haw asked, “Where are Sniff & Scurry? Do you think they know something we don’t?” Hem scoffed, “What would they know? They’re just simple mice. They just respond to what happens. We’re little people. We’re smarter.”
Haw suggested, “Maybe we should stop analyzing the situation so much and just get going & find some New Cheese.
Haw decided to leave Cheese Station C while Hem was more comfortable staying in the cheeseless Station C. Haw announced, “It’s MAZE time!” and wrote:
If You Do Not Change,
You Can Become Extinct
Meanwhile, Sniff & Scurry went farther into the maze until they found Cheese Station N. They found what they had been looking for: a great supply of New Cheese. It was the biggest store of cheese the mice had ever seen.
Haw on the other hand become more anxious & wondered if he really wanted to go out into the Maze. He wrote a saying on the wall ahead of him & stared at it for some time:
What Would You Do
If You Weren’t Afraid?
Haw now realized that the change probably would not have taken him by surprise if he had been watching what was happening all along and if he had anticipated change. He stopped for a rest & wrote on the wall of the Maze:
Smell The Cheese Often
So You Know
When It Is Getting Old.
Haw wondered if Hem had moved on, or if he was still paralyzed by his own fears. Then, Haw remembered the times when he had felt his best in the Maze. It was when he was moving along. He wrote:
Movement In A New Direction Helps You Find
New Cheese.
As Haw started running down the dark corridor, he began to smile. Haw didn’t realize it yet, but he was discovering what nourished his soul. He was letting go & trusting what lay ahead for him, even though he did not know exactly what it was.
To his surprise, Haw started to enjoy himself more & more. He stopped to write again on the wall:
When You Move Beyond Your Fear,
You Feel Free.
To make things even better, Haw started to paint a picture in his mind again. He saw himself in great realistic detail, sitting in the middle of a pile of all his favorite cheeses-from Cheddar to Brie! He saw himself eating the many cheeses he liked, & he enjoyed what he saw.
The more clearly he saw the image of himself enjoying New Cheese, the more real & believable it became. He wrote:
Imagining Myself
Enjoying New Cheese,
Even Before I Find It,
Leads Me To It.
Haw wondered why he had always thought that a change would lead to something worse. Now he realized that change could lead to something better.
Then he raced through the Maze with greater strength & agility. Until he found bits of New Cheese. He entered the Cheese Station but it was empty. Someone had already been there.
He stopped & wrote on the wall:
The Quicker You
Let Go Of Old Cheese,
The Sooner
you Find New Cheese.
Haw made his way back to Cheese Station C to offer Hem bits of New Cheese but was turned down. Hem wanted his own Cheese back. Haw just shook his head in disappointment but this does not stop him from finding New Cheese. He smiled as he realized:
It Is Safer
To Search In The Maze
Than Remain
In The Cheeseless Situation.
Haw realized again, that what you are afraid of is never as bad as what you imagine. The fear you let build up in your mind is worse than the situation that actually exists.
He realizes it was natural for change to continually occur, whether you expect it or not. Change could surprise you only if you didn’t expect it & weren’t looking for it.
When he realized he had changed his beliefs, he paused to write on the wall:
Old Beliefs
Do Not Lead You To
New Cheese.
Haw now realized that his new beliefs were encouraging him to behave in a new way. He was behaving differently from the way he had when he had kept returning to the same cheeseless station.
It all depends on what you choose to believe. He wrote on the wall:
When You See That You Can Find And Enjoy New Cheese, You Change Course.
Haw just hoped he was heading in the right direction. He thought about the possibility that Hem would read The Handwriting On The Wall & find his way.
He wrote on the wall what he had been thinking about for some time:
Noticing Small Changes Early Helps You Adapt To The Bigger Changes That Are To Come.
He continued on through the Maze with greater strength & speed. He proceeded along a corridor that was new to him, rounded a corner, & found New Cheese at Cheese Station N where he saw the greatest supply of Cheese he had ever seen.Sniff & Scurry welcomed him.
“Hooray for Change!”
Haw wrote down a summary of what he had learned on the largest wall of Cheese Station N & smiled as he looked at what he had learned:
THE HANDWRITING ON THE WALL
?Change Happens
?Anticipate Change
?Monitor Change
?Adapt To Change Quickly
Change
?Enjoy Change !
?Be Ready To Change Quickly & Enjoy It Again.
Move With The Cheese &
Enjoy It !
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